I wouldn’t ever assume that the people I coach wouldn’t have eventually found their own way without me.
I firmly believe that coaching only helps a person to bring out what’s already deeply buried inside them.
Often, however, we need someone to put that mirror up in front of us, to ask the right questions, to accept that it’s ok to feel the way that we do but importantly, to recognise that there can be a way forward after loss or a major life transition which is more than just coping.
And we don’t always need to spend endless years of grieving, pining for what we cannot have anymore …
We can’t deny how these life events change us which often make us view the world differently – for many, they will say that it helped them to prioritise what’s really important in life and others, have said that it was because of a significant loss or transition that they sought a more meaningful way to live for the first time.
As much of our lives consist of constantly ‘doing/keeping busy’, we often don’t think about the way we choose to live until a sad event forces us to question our lives. If you’re reading this and life has gone well for you so far:
1) you’re very lucky 2) you don’t have to wait for loss to live life fully
One thing I might suggest is to visualise yourself in 10-15 years time? What would your life look like? Would you be happy with the way it’s turned out?
As I’ve gotten older, I’m more aware that my time here is becoming increasingly shorter – I know I can’t go back and change the clock to have made better decisions in my life, and I don’t feel that dwelling on my past helps me going forward. I’ve learnt to accept the hardships that have happened (those both in and out of my control), there’s no doubt it’s changed me considerably as a person but on a positive side, I’ve gained a lot.
I have found that materialism means a lot less to me, I wouldn’t appreciate all the good things I do have in my life now, or try to live more in-the-moment and I certainly wouldn’t have as much determination to live my life as fully as I do.
And very importantly, I wouldn’t have had the experience or inspiration to start this business … so maybe that’s my fate?
I’ve realised we DON’’T have all the time in the world to do things we’ve aspired to do. Life is momentary. A blink of an eye.
I liked this quote I recently saw:
“Our house is clean enough to be healthy, and dirty enough to be happy!”
I would say that sums up my approach to housework! My point is don’t spend precious time on things that don’t really matter too much but spend more time on yourself doing what makes you feel good.
Here’s a challenge for you:
What one thing could you spend less time on that isn’t so important? What can you do instead that is more enjoyable?
I’d love to hear about your changes. You know how to drop me a line ….