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Have you experienced a bereavement, loss or life changing event?
Are you struggling to find meaning and purpose in your life?
Everything changes. Sadly …
We are constantly evolving and adapting to our ever-changing environment. It may be easier to accept a loss when we have chosen to make the change even though it can still prove difficult and challenging. In reality, we experience transitions and grief in so many aspects of our lives including bereavement, divorce, redundancy, retirement, parenthood, injury and illness, moving home, bankruptcy, empty-nest syndrome, mid-life crisis, loss of normalcy and so on... and often, only when faced with such adversity, do we realise the wealth of internal coping mechanisms we have within us in order to adapt to the huge change in our life.
However, there are some losses which are so painful that we cannot easily overcome or transition through them. All we can then do is to find a way to live alongside it, to sit with it. There may not be a message of personal growth in every life change or a desire to become more resilient from it, it simply ‘just is,’ but as a culture we’re not very good at accepting that some things cannot be fixed.
We may begin to question how we should cope, whether there’s a greater meaning or purpose to our lives and understandably, fear around the unknown and our future.
Coaching through bereavement and other significant losses can help those who feel overwhelmed and struggling to cope with difficult and often deeply painful emotions.
In a culture that is often known as being ‘grief averse,’ it is critical that those supporting the bereaved develop an awareness of the complexity of grief. In turn, they can then better support others with increased understanding, compassion and connectedness.
** In light of the coronavirus crisis, I have created a new Facebook group called “Kinship in Grief” to invite people to share their experiences of grief and gain support at this extremely difficult time. At the same time, I would also like to open it up further to anyone who feels they are struggling with the loss of normalcy right now.
Please do come and join us – self-isolation does not mean we need to feel alone.